What to do Daily for Self-Care

The Daily Self-Care Challenge

Ladies now more than ever it’s important to take care of you! During these stressful times we need to make time for ourselves, I know it’s hard to think about yourself with work, home schooling due to lockdowns, dealing with other people’s energies, all while trying to maintain your sanity. These self-care rituals will help you soothe your mind, body, and soul, reduce your stress, and hopefully remind you that you also need to be a priority.

Let’s make next week, the week of self-love, each day do the ritual listed. I want you to journal about each activity after you have completed it, write down how you were feeling before and how you feel after. At the end of the week due a self-check on your emotional wellbeing and share your journey with us.

Weekly list of self-care Rituals

Sunday – Take time to do something you really love to do. Maybe you love dancing, find a dance class on YouTube or if you live somewhere without lockdown restrictions take a class.

Monday – Meditate to clear your mind, strengthen your focus, and gain peace. As I stated in my previous post give headspace Guide to Meditation a try on Netflix.

Tuesday – Go outdoors to re-acquaint yourself with nature. Take a walk in the park, go for a hike, or drive to a body of water and just watch the waves. Listen to the sounds, feel the breeze, be present

Wednesday – Write out your feelings put all your stress down on paper. Stay in touch with your feelings and let go of anything weighing you down.

Thursday – Exercise to relieve your stress and rejuvenate both your mind and body. Exercise dose not need to be intense, go for a walk, do stretches, try yoga. Do something that gets you moving and out of your head.

Friday – Pamper yourself with a facial, pedicure/manicure. I love steaming my face, I find it very soothing and relaxing.

Saturday – Take a luxurious bath or shower set the mood with candles, soft music, essential oils for relaxation. If you’re taking a luxurious bath read a book, listen to a podcast or just lie there with your eyes closed and feel your tension slipping away.

At the end of the week make a list for other rituals that you can do to keep the self-love momentum going and please share with us.

Remember your status may be Single but you’re not alone.

Meditation = Well Being

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I have been suffering from insomnia the last few months and decided I need to do something to stop my brain, I feel consumed with thoughts. I have also found myself getting caught up in the office drama. Their bad days were becoming my bad days just because I was allowing their negative energy in.

I had to find a way to block the negative energies and to not get let my thoughts be consumed with the office drama and the bad behaviors of others especially during these trying times.

How was I going to get through this without further distress on my mental health?

Meditation is a practice of training your mind to focus and enhancing your awareness. It’s not about turning off your thoughts, it learning to observe them without judgement.

The benefits of meditation:

  • Gaining perspective on stressful situations
  • Builds skill to manage stress
  • Helps keeping focus on the present
  • Reduces negative emotions
  • Increase patience and tolerance

I found my answer but where do I start? Thankfully, Netflix was there to help me out. They have teamed up with Headspace and created a series of guided meditations. Just what this beginner needed. There are 8 guided mediations in the series and each one is about 20 minutes long. Andy from headspace talks you through it. His voice is very calming, and he will tell you that it’s ok if your mind wonders that’s normal.

I felt calmer after the first episode, I did one guided meditation nighty for 8 nights. I felt my anxiety subside, I was sleeping a little better (this is a work in progress) and I did not get caught up in the office drama. I now do guided meditations daily and I feel like I am more mindful of my surroundings it just kind of happens, I can deflect any negative thoughts a lot easier, and I have an overall sense of wellbeing. I am now a promoter of mediation and I understand why people who have been doing it for years seem so grounded and together.

The best thing is you don’t have to buy any fancy equipment all you need is a quiet space. If you are a beginner like me, I would recommend headspace Guide to Meditation on Netflix, also there are plenty of guided meditations on YouTube.

With a regular meditation practice your will discover the following:

  • Mediation allows you to sort out your feelings. It offers an opportunity to reflect on your current situation and gain insights into your experiences.
  • Your concentration will get stronger as will your self-knowledge and awareness.
  • Create a new habit by ending each meditation session with a specific action that will help you achieve your goals


So, what are your waiting for…a regular meditation practice can help keep your mind sharp. Devote time to thinking, learning, and growing. You’ll enjoy the results!

What you need to know about stress and your skin

Stress what is it good for?…. absolutely nothing

Have you ever had a pimple or a cold sore show up right before a job interview or a big date?  Or maybe “The Vid” has you breaking out in hives. As you may have already guessed stress can affect your skin, confidence and love life. The signs of stress can be physical as well as mental, and they can appear anywhere on your body.

Anywhere!

Most skin conditions are the result of chemical and hormonal changes caused by stress. These conditions include rashes, hives, styes (I’ve had two since last March), pimples and maskne. Stress causes your body to produce more cortisol, and that makes your skin oilier and prone to acne. Fun!

Normally we’d be dealing with work, home and relationship stress but now on top of our regular every day stressors we have to deal with a pandemic. Here are some tips to help reduce the impact it has on your comfort and appearance.

Try these tips for treating and preventing stress-related skin issues:

  1. Understand the interactions. Stress can be the direct cause of what’s going on with your skin. It can also slow down healing regardless of what caused your symptoms. Plus, skin troubles can cause more stress, creating an unfortunate cycle.

  2. Cleanse carefully. If dealing with stress induced acne scrubbing too hard can do more damage to your skin. Wash your face gently and be sure to products suitable for your skin type.

  3. Relieve itching. If stress has you braking out in hives or a rash make sure to resist the urge to scratch. Keeping your hands off your skin helps to prevent scarring and reduces the risk of spreading any infection. You really don’t want to be labelled a Super Spreader regardless of what you are spreading

  4. Talk with your doctor. If you are experiencing any of these things in the past year, chances are very good it’s your body’s stress response. However, if it persists for two long you may want to check with your doctor to rule out any potentially serious causes like allergies or bacterial infections.

  5. Have patience. Skin conditions often need awhile to heal fully so it is important to be patient and try not to stress. Yes, it’s a double-edged sword.

7 Tips For Preventing Stress-Related Skin Symptoms

  1. Exercise regularly. Movement is the quickest way to alleviate stress. It’s as simple as a brisk walk in the park to help you get your mind off your troubles. Plan workouts you’ll look forward to, like dance classes, running or in my case I like to punch things therefore I do Muay Thai. There are also a ton of online workouts on YouTube for all fitness levels. Try a new one every other day to keep it interesting.

  2. Get Sleep. Aim for at least 7 hours of sleep each night. Try to keep a    consistent schedule so your body gets into a regular rhythm. If you are having trouble sleeping try a melatonin supplement, meditation, or a guided sleep hypnosis on YouTube. I find Rescue Remedy and a cup of warm water with Natural Calm Magnesium before bed to be a perfect combination.
  • Eat a balanced diet. You are what you eat so if you are eating to much pizza to help you get thought the pandemic your face will look like one.  Your skin needs nourishment just like the rest of your body. Avoid crash diets and too much processed food. Consume at least 7 servings of vegetable and fruits a day, along with adequate protein and healthy fats. Make sure to get your essential fatty acids and take an omega 3 supplement not only is it great for your skin but it also makes your hair Hollywood fabulous.

  • Gab with the girls. It helps to have someone you can confide in. Call a friend or organize a zoom chat with your posse when you need to vent and for support. Consider seeing a therapist, talking to your girls is great but sometimes having an outsider’s perspective helps you see things differently.
  • Limit alcohol and caffeine. Yes, this is hard! For me it’s caffeine I can drink 4 cups of coffee a day on a bad day because it calms me. Sadly, alcohol and caffeine can also aggravate skin conditions. Drink in moderation or substitute water and herbal teas instead.

  • Practice relaxation techniques. You might want to start a daily meditation practice or take a warm bath when you return home from work.

  • Keep a journal. People under estimate the power of pen and paper. Writing about your feelings helps you release them, by the time you are finished getting it all down on paper you will feel that the weight has lifted.

Remember rough days at the office, pandemic news, winter and bills don’t have to take a toll on your epidermis. Protect your skin with regular maintenance, appropriate medical care, and a healthy dose of stress management.

How do you manage your stress? Please share with us we’d love to hear your tips and tricks.

Believe in yourself it will make you stronger

Do you often second guess the decisions your make? Question your judgement at times? Are you afraid to voice your opinions or stand up for yourself in front of others?

Girlfriend it’s time to make these practices a thing of the past! Let’s start making changes now! Start by holding your head high, shoulder back and strut, believe that you have value and that your opinions matter. That it’s okay to be YOU, you can have doubts, change your mind and disagree with others. You can be unsure during these trying times.

Allow yourself to have more confidence in everything that you do. Close your eyes and imagine what your confident self looks and feels like. Do your see yourself walking tall and commanding attention? Is your tone firm and reassuring to others?

Now say to yourself:

“I feel stronger knowing that I can build my confidence by changing my behaviors”.

“I believe that I should be heard and that my opinions matter”

 “I believe I am a capable, competent, and unique individual which makes me unstoppable”

“I believe in me”

Now we need to get the root of what’s causing your insecurities and what’s holding you back from being your most confident self. It’s time to go within and do some self-reflecting. Find a quiet place that you can get comfortable, light a candle, play some soft relaxing music do whatever you need to make this your place of peace and happiness.

Meditate on this:

Ask yourself the following questions:

  1. What does a confident person look like to me? What confident bahaviours do I see in others and that I can emulate?
  2. What negative beliefs am I holding? Why am I holding on to them?
  3. What new habits can I practice that help build my confidence?

Remember building your confidence will take time, Rome wasn’t built in a day and your self doubt didn’t happen overnight. But being aware and recognizing that you may need work in this area is the first step to becoming your most radiant confident self.

Please share with us your confidence building tips.

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